The fourth principle is sex. If we do not have it we can still survive. It should not be a repression, but it should also not be an addiction. Ideally it can be on a regular date and time, if it’s regular then the mind won’t be wondering much and the need or the feverishness for this will be reduced. And at the same time we keep working on how to uplift from it.
One of the ways to uplift is when we are in the process of making love, remaining a witness there. So if we are only doing it and not remaining a witness then the point is lost. One needs to remain a witness so that I am not doing it, the body is doing it. Yes you go all the way in it, but the body is going, you are not going. That witnessing will bring the need for it down. Similarly, if there is anger and we become witness to it, we become aware of the anger, the anger goes down. Same way the need for sex will go down in the process if we are a witness. So while making love, remain a witness and that’s one way to reduce the requirement or the urge for it.
If methods like this are used, it also gives a deep fulfilment, not just ejaculating but a full body orgasm. When we follow the processes of Tantra then fulfilment would be deeper and that way, the need for it would be reduced. Understanding helps a lot. The same way we have addiction for food, the same applies to sex. So we work on the addiction to remove it. four are the fundamental principles behind the emotions. Let’s take a few major emotions and work on it. If we cover these they are sufficient to lead us towards a happily and joyful life.